deartz on March 20th, 2015

For every one of us, there comes a time that we #StartANewLife, take that bold step in life which is the impetus of the changes in our adult life and the determiner of the kind of life we live now. For some it’s as early as after college graduation and for others as late as after their fathers kicked them out of their doors, but the result is the same, we step out in the world full of excitement and fear. Excited of what the world and future offer, and afraid of what the world and future put up. However, for whatever its worth, we thread that path and continue until we learn to survive and eventually thrive.

In my case, I was among those who learned to discover the world at an early age. As soon as I finish college, I grabbed the opportunity to practice my trade away from my hometown. At first, the intention was to be a transient, but of course life doesn’t always give you what you want. My plan of going back home and to permanently stay there after a couple of years was until now, a plan. Unfortunately, work opportunities in my native place were scarce, so up to now, although I miss it terribly, going back home is only for short stays and holidays.

While I miss my native place, my adoptive city has been very good to me. It is the place where I grew personally, professionally, and morally. Like any other places, there are bad things here, like heavy traffic and ridiculously high prices of commodities, but the good trumps the bad: the locals are tolerant, economy is good, and weather is the best. I was lucky to have chosen the good city to start a new life. For someone fresh out of college, it would have been scary to stay alone in a city unknown to me. But the good thing of starting out a new chapter of life was the anticipation of what happens next, since it was always new and unknown, there’s always this kind of mixed feelings of highs and lows. Every day was always an exciting day! From choosing my first independent rental house, meeting my new neighbours, buying my first gas stove, cooking my first complete meal, inviting new colleagues for a dinner at home, or roaming around the city, bargain-hunting for my furniture, there had always been something new that came up. I liked how starting a new life brought many adventures, it was actually the start of much more adventures that I had.

I’ve been living in the same city for more than a decade now, and also rented several houses, but every time, it was always in a good neighborhood. Choosing a place to live is not easy; there are many things to be considered before finalizing a rental, much more a purchase. I was lucky that the places I rented were constantly well, even the plots I bought are good too.

#StartANewLife looks to be scary but with determination and courage, it’s actually quite exciting, so go ahead, don’t be a scaredy cat, #lookup to it.

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deartz on March 16th, 2015

Life today is full of stress on work, money, and work. People these days only think of how to earn more money, be it someone who earns hundred rupees or someone whose salary is hundred lakh rupees. Everybody has always some reasons why he needs more, and I am not an exception however few months ago, I forewent an opportunity to earn more, much more, which could have solved my money worries, or so I thought. I had made a decision to reject a job offer which could have given me better financial status and career improvement and more work stress, all of these, in exchange to be #together with my family, specially my newborn son.

On the day that my son was born was also the day that I received a job offer from one of the top companies in the world. The job would have required me to work outside the country, leaving my family behind, and join the company immediately. Ever since I had received the offer, I had trouble in making the decision. On the positive note, accepting the job would have freed me from the financial burden that I was in that time. On the negative note, I would have missed my son’s many firsts. It was a back and forth decision. I enquired all my family members, from my father to my wife, on what I supposed to do, and they were also adamant on giving advice. Everyone I’d asked would tell me to decide for myself. As days passed, I was stressed out by not having a decision. The contact person from that company was emailing me every day, waiting for my final say. And every day, I was bugging my wife and parents on what to do and they always gave me the same uncertain answers. My wife had even told me that she asked God to give her signs though she didn’t get one (I think she’s not religious enough hehe..).

It was two weeks after my son’s birth that I made the final decision, the decision that I’ve never regretted. I was holding my son just after his first bath, as my wife and mom were getting ready to go to temple when for the very first time, he looked at me for a minute and gave me the sweetest smile I’ve ever seen. As if the smile was not enough, he also giggled. I was astounded with joy. It wasn’t his first smile but it was his first smile to me, a smile that could melt the world. His small laughter was music to my ears and until now I could still remember how it had sounded. It was there and then that I’d decided to reject the job offer and stay with my family instead.

I was glad that I did that decision, being #together with my son made me see that some things cannot be replaced with money. It was that smile and laughter that gave me strength and motivation to make do with what I have and not sacrifice the happiness my family brings. After that, I am filled with optimism in my current job and look up for better opportunities without leaving behind my family. Now, every morning, I wake up to the beautiful smile of my son with an occasional bite on my finger and kick on my back 😉

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